Could he/she be the right one for you?

Have you ever been through a lot of relationship?  And if you see that he’s closer to perfect, you’re starting to hope and pray that he’s the one.  As you two get along very well, things are starting to change on your part because you think that it would be good to do “that” and not “this”.  You get the feeling that if you do “that”, he’ll never leave you.  Without even thinking that what you are actually doing is not the real you.

There are cases wherein, a person starts to change when he/she is in a relationship.  Why?  Because we, people who are seriously in love, do things that we don’t normally do just for the sake of our partner’s happiness.  You might think that, if you do this, he/she will be happy.  In some part/cases, yes!  It makes them happy, BUT what about you?  What about the ‘give and take’ in a relationship?  Then you will start thinking that you’re giving too much, and he/she is not doing anything.  

No closure.  No communication.  Full of pride.  Result?  BREAK UP.  In your next relationship, the same thing goes with you simply because you haven’t learn.  You look for a new relationship, for what?  To make the new one a REBOUND?  It will just be a history repeating itself.  The only difference is, you’re with a new partner.

So, how will you find the right one?  How will you know that he/she is just standing right in front of you?  There are thousands of suggestion for this, and many of you have tried different ways on how to find the right one.  Some of you bought a book about this topic.  Few decided to ask a psychic to read a tarot card pertaining to their love life.  But how many of us can actually say that we have found the one?  The one the you can actually spend your life with.  The one that you’ll never leave when you think someone better came along.  The one you’ll never hurt, but instead find a thousand ways to make him/her happy each and everyday of your lives together.

For me, if you think he/she is the right one for you there are 3 ways you have to do for your relationship to work.  Be yourself… If your partner truly loves you, he/she will accept you whatever bad habits you have there inside.  Don’t be shy to show your partner who you really are.  Trust… Don’t let something stupid things or other person to take that away from you.  Try to know the situation first before you over react.  And trust yourself that you can make things happen for the relationship to work.  Be open minded.  Know your partner’s side.  And last but not the least, LOVE…  Make sure that the love you have for your partner is balance with the love you have for yourself.  Because, believe it or not, too much love will kill you (like what they say).  Find some time to relax yourself, ALONE!  Don’t give all your time to your partner.  Yes, you love your partner, but he/she needs a time for her/himself too.  Try to schedule for something…exciting.  So you two will not get bored in your relationship.  

Midnight Solitaire

Midnight Solitaire, a girl who was abandoned by her biological parents after a year she was born.  Adopted by not so newly wed couple, she was raised in a small town where she spent almost half of her life.

All the people in that small town thought that she was blessed with a happy family and a great life ahead.  Somehow it is true.  But as she grew up and knew that she was only adopted, she begun to show off a rebellious act to everyone in the family.  She chose what to show, and the things that will make her feel unwanted were hidden.

By the time she was in school age stage, many things were changed.  She begun to stay quiet at all times.  Act of maturity were seen, as well as the way she thinks were a bit different from her friends.

When she got in highschool, still quiet but a little more friendly.  She was beautiful in the eyes of others, so there were boys who wanted to court her.  But it was not her priority.  All she wanted is to be a part of a team, and be the best player of all time.

She continued her studies , and after school hours, Midnight proceeded to trainings.  She was able to achieved her dreams.  She was the best player of her batch when she graduated.

And still continued to hope that she’ll be able to make it to International one day.  But everything changed when she got pregnant.  Everything just fell down, right in front of her.  A one big mistake, and there was no turning back.   Though she didn’t regret it, sometimes she wish to go back in time where she could make everything right.

Her life had no direction since the day the guy left her after 5 years of being in a relationship.  But still she continue to keep on going, fight for everyday and live for her daughter.  She wanted a perfect life for her daughter but her life was totally messed up.  She didn’t know where to start again and the worse part is, she didn’t know how to start.

She left the town after she graduated from college.  Left her daughter for the mean time with her mother, so she can work.  Striving for the future of her daughter, because she doesn’t want her daughter to experience what she have been through.

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It is not that easy to change, so you will have a better life ahead.  Changing takes a lot of practice and dedication.  Just don’t give up, if you did the same thing once.  Keep moving forward and be positive, bad things will stay behind.